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Sunday – Zoom
Voices of Recovery
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Voices of Recovery
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Thursday – Zoom
Friday – Zoom
|| Literature/Discussion |
Saturday – Zoom
OA Brown Book
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AA Big Book
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“Many of us have found that we cannot abstain from compulsive eating unless we use some or all of OA’s nine tools of recovery.” – The Tools of Recovery pamphlet
After several years in OA I can finally say I am abstinent. I cannot say the exact moment that it finally clicked for me, but once it did, WOW!
*Looking back I can see that going to meetings, listening, and forming relationships started softening my heart and changing me from the inside.
*Reading OA literature started me thinking and questioning my choices and the life that I was living.
*Writing helps me to see the person I had become and beliefs I was holding that did not serve me well.
*Reaching out by text or phone calls was a humbling experience for me. It started opening my heart and mind that it was not just about me. That I was touching other people who were stuck in their own battles and lies with compulsive overeating.
*Serving others by leading meetings, setting up, or cleaning up keeps me feeling a part of the group. It also lets me put myself out there in a loving, safe environment.
*Spending time with my HP sends me inward, changing how I see myself, others, and the world around me. Letting me know that I am never without hope and help.
*Sharing with my sponsor pushes me to start trusting and believing in personal relationships. Something that I had no longer believed myself capable.
*Working the steps gives me daily direction. They show me how to live humbly with my Higher Power at the center and looking for ways that I can touch others, especially those that share my compulsive overeating.
Today I shall continue to lean into program,
To exercise even when I don’t feel like it,
To relax into abstinence and not fight it,
To pause and experience life instead of rushing thru it,
To focus my attention on gratitudes and positive thoughts even if it seems naive,
To be mature when maturity is called for and to be childlike when childlike wonder and play is called for,
To reach out for Power & Strength when needed instead of trying to go it alone,
To be in balance with what I have to do and what I want to do and to leave *space* for the unexpected,
“The remedy of all blunders, the
cure of blindness, the cure of crime, is love.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
For Today Aug. 19
Because of my past, my defects of
character, and my lack of experience with forgiveness and tolerance- it has
taken me many years to accept the love that is offered to me in this
program. In the past I learned to falter- to break promises and to fail
people as a way of pushing them away. The safe “buffer zone” of broken
commitments that keeps me at a distance and in a state of self-loathing and
So many times, I have taken my
sponsor and the meetings for granted- only to be accepted back- without
reservation. Loving arms open wide to me- if only my self-defeating mind
would remember that I am a part of a family that knows exactly where I am, have
been, and am bound for if I continue to take this journey that the Big Book
maps out for me.
This keeps me mindful that even
though I have these defects of character- my sponsor and fellow members will
lovingly accept me as I am without the need to “test” them or push them
away. To trust that I will always have a place to go, and that I am no
Just for Today I will try to live through is day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for one day that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. – Just for Today trifold Overeaters Anonymous
I am a runner. These words still bring chills and delight to my heart and are true only as a gift of the OA program. Through the promises of the program I have been relieved of 140 pounds and am relishing a new found physical existence that I never even conceived as possible.
On one of my runs this week I began to recognize how my experiences along my OA journey remind me of my experiences on a run.
Sometimes running is so easy and carefree while other times it is a real schlog. There is a direct relationship to my commitment to working the program and practicing its principles to the ease of the maintenance of my abstinence. Just like how a run is so much more successful when I prepare and conscientiously train. I need to actively nurture my spiritual condition as much as I actively nurture my physical condition.
Sometimes the path is smooth, dry, and clear and I can keep my head up and gaze at the world I am running through while other times it is covered with debris and wet and treacherous so I keep my head down and my eyes focused on simply the next place I shall plant my feet. Oh, how wonderful and glorious are those phases in life that are smooth and dry. I often wish I could bottle those moments and put them into a lotion to slather on when life gets covered with debris and treacherous. In those rough times, I put my head down and focus on doing the next right thing as revealed to me by my Higher Power.
Sometimes I can see the path ahead and sometimes there is a curve I simply cannot see around. There sometimes are hills – up and down – that can be a challenge or a relief. Life comes at me sometimes with predictability and sometimes with the unexpected. When I know there are challenges ahead, I can prepare and have a plan in place with my program and my sponsor. When life throws an unexpected event into my path, I rely on my relationship with program and my Higher Power to provide for me what I need to face that challenge. And with any challenge, just like with every hill, there is a beginning, a middle, and an end.
All of this is part of the running experience.
The result of running is endorphins and joy in my body and healthy results. Just like my “run” through program!
Self-pity is one of the most unhappy and consuming defects that we know. It is bar to all spiritual progress and can cut off all effective communication with our fellows because of its inordinate demands for attention and sympathy. It is a maudlin form of martyrdom which we can ill afford.
As Bill Sees It, pg. 238.
Since coming to OA 3 years ago I have been very fortunate to lose a significant amount of weight. However, over the past year I have had some health issues that have caused me to gain most of it back. Several months went by before I found the right diagnosis, as well as several wrong diagnoses. Week after week I would cry when I saw that scale. By some miracle though I have stayed abstinent through it all. As this progressed, my mind desperately wanted to drift into self-pity. Even though I know it blocks me from the Higher Power that keeps me abstinent, I still wanted something or someone to blame. After I recognized that I was surely going to lose my abstinence if I continued on this path, I had nothing left but to pick up the kit of spiritual tools laid at my feet. I worked all 12 steps again with my sponsor. I reevaluated my food and added a few more foods to my Trigger Food List. I tried my best to increase my exercise and I increased my service work. It has been 4 months since I started medication for my illness. I have stopped gaining but I’m not losing either. Once again, I want to get into self-pity. For me it is a delicate balance of expressing my feelings and emotions but knowing when I have crossed the line into life-threatening self-inflicted sorrow. I’m saying all of this to say that whatever the situation is, and justified as I might think I am, I do not have the luxury of succumbing to the woe-is-me attitude. With the program I am gradually reprogramming my mind to be grateful and to help someone less fortunate than me. Without the weight gain I might never have been diagnosed with this illness. And how much worse would this have been if I had not been abstinent!
I may not see where this path I am on is going, but I am positive my HP has all of it under control.
“Made a decision to turn our will
and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.”
As an adult, I have lived a mostly
Hyper Vigilant life with a compulsive overeating disorder and ONLY because of
the OA meetings here in Arkansas and the OA Angels that attend the meetings,
have I come to a better understanding of how I became a Compulsive Overeater
and how I was in complete denial before OA.
I am an Adult Child of an Alcoholic.
I learned as a child how to survive my alcoholic father by lying to
adults around me, raising a baby sister with my twin while trying to protect my
Mother, and sometimes being left alone for weeks.
I began my OA journey by just
attending meetings and listening to the profound sharing from other OA Angels.
Through their stories of experience, strength and hope, I began to look within
myself, especially my character defects and how I myself had been the cause of
so much misery as I had been unable to connect within deeply, before OA
meetings. One day, after a meeting, another OA Angel approached me and
offered to be my Sponsor!! I had prayed to my HP to please lead me to the
right person and my prayers were answered. I have been working with
her weekly on an hour phone call weekly l and I am proud to say we are working
on Step 3.
MADE A DECISION TO TURN OUR WILL AND
OUR LIVES OVER TO GOD AS WE UNDERSTOOD HIM. This step for me has been about
TRUST and knowing that I can safely turn my will and my life over to HP and get
out of the misery of thinking that I am in charge and can handle everything
myself. I cannot, which is why my life became unmanageable and the
Compulsive Overeating was killing me slowly but surely. I feel hope and
deep gratitude for OA and all who have led me to this point.
I am in the process of unraveling
from within, always thinking I was in control and through the program, my
sponsor, the OA Angels that surround me in unconditional love, support and
fellowship, I am healing, of which I am forever grateful. I am on my new
journey to complete Abstinence and growth. I want to be able to become a
Sponsor someday and offer service to this wonderful organization which has been
such a blessing to me.
“B.I.N.G.E. = Because I’m Not Good Enough”
I was pondering this morning on the times when I binged and how I used program to work my way past them. I haven’t binged in so long I don’t remember the last time. But I know that I am completely capable of doing so pretty much every moment of every day.
I realized that I needed to face the binge seeing if there is a way to turn it into an opportunity. Maybe ponder the circumstances leading up to it. Besides any physical triggers (that first compulsive bite), were there emotional signs? Spiritual signs? Really sit with it and see if I can identify anything.
Regardless, the way I have found to move forward in recovery is to:
Report to my sponsor
Try to identify something I can learn from the situation
Create an action plan for the next time the same trigger situations arise – they always do
Forgive myself – the hardest on this list
Immediately refocus, recommit, take a deep breath, move forward resting in the Serenity Prayer.
“Prayer is the only means of truly opening my mind and spirit …” For Today p. 7
For several years I have begun my day by mentally reciting the first three Steps, the Third Step Prayer and the Seventh Step Prayer.
In the last year or so, I have been led to “improve my conscious contact” with my Higher Power and these prayers have no longer seemed to be enough. I have studied program literature written by members who have sought a spiritual path. I have listened to guided meditation tapes with a spiritual theme. And like the Big Book suggest, I have sought the wisdom of ministers and other truly religious people. Recently I heard a lesson on what is often described as “The Model Prayer”.
As l listened, I saw that The Model Prayer encompassed the important concepts of the 12 Step Programs. I began to think about this prayer as a true model. In my own words I began to pray:
Just for today grant me the gift of abstinence.
Remove my defects of character.
Release me from the resentment towards those who have hurt me.
Grant me the courage to make my amends.
Free me from the temptations of my disease as I strive to do your will.