Join us April 13-15, 2018 at Heifer Ranch for our recovery retreat! Click here for a registration flier: Spring Retreat 18 Registration
“Keep coming back.”
For me this slogan is a gentler, subtler way of saying, “Don’t let your pride kill you.” My pride and ego tell me that if I go off my food plan, or if I binge, then I should stop going to meetings because I’m too ashamed. My ego likes to convince me that all the other people in OA have this down, and they will judge me if I admit my issues with food are still flaring up. Well- that is a LIE my disease tells me, and if I believe it, it could be a death sentence. Like the Big Book says, “Remember that we deal with alcohol, cunning, baffling, powerful. Without help, it is too much for us.” Well, that is how my compulsive eating is cunning, baffling, and powerful: it makes me believe that compulsive eating is something that I should be ashamed of, and I might as well just roll over and let that shame do me in. Well, not today. Today I know that the line in the serenity prayer that asks HP for the courage to change the things I can means that I am asking HP for the courage to first be honest with my sponsor about my food, and then begin to practice gratitude and hope. As long as I am above ground, there is hope. This program works if I work it. Relief from the bondage of binge eating is a gracious gift from HP. There is so much love and acceptance in the rooms of OA. My friends in meetings are supportive, kind and loving. They care about me. They want me to be happy, joyous and free. There is no judgement except for the b.s. lies my disease manufactures to keep me separated from my friends. Before OA I thought that I was separate and terminal- but I know otherwise now. My HP never gives up on me. My friends never give up on me. My sponsor is teaching me how to have a healthy relationship with food one day at a time. I am grateful, and I know I have a spiritual home in OA. I hope that if you are reading this, and if you are scared, that you will come to a meeting anyway. You will be welcomed, and we will be so glad to see you and share our adventures in recovery with you. Keep coming back. ❤
“Living life on life’s terms…”
I want the world to stop while I’m working the 12 steps. I want to be able to just focus on them and nothing else. Throughout life when I have been going through difficult things I have just wanted the world to stop, so I could check out of my life. My internal monologue wondered, “can’t the world just stop, don’t they know…. my Dad died…. I was abused…. I need a break…. I’m going through the 12 steps…” Part of my disease is that I want the world to revolve around me. I am learning in Overeaters Anonymous that the world keeps turning even when bad things happen. There is never going to be the perfect time to lose weight, work the steps or get my life on track. I have to work on these things every day, while also participating in the rest of my life. It’s hard and it’s not always fun, but day by day I am trying to work the steps while still dealing with messy relationships, work, grocery shopping, my cat and everything else that comes along with living. I don’t do any of this perfectly, but I try my best not to slip into feeling sorry for myself. Some tools that have helped me are: reaching out to program friends, calling my sponsor, writing and doing my step work.
Reaching out to program friends, helps me remember I’m not alone in this. Program friends understand me like no one else can. They know the pain of trying to control this disease through will power alone.. They give me strength when I want to give in. Calling my sponsor reminds me that I have disease. She points out the conniving ways my disease tricks my brain. My sponsor is my daily dose of reality. I have spent so long in the disease of compulsive eating, that I’m not always able to recognize the many lies it tells me. Writing helps me see my life in a way living it never can. I have recently finished my 4th Step and I have learned so much about myself in the process. Writing is helping me to learn that I am not a bad person just because I’ve done bad things, like the literature says, “we are not failures just because we sometimes fail.” I am learning through my writing and step work to accept myself as a fallible human being. To others this is a given, but for me, the idea that I don’t have to be perfect all the time is freedom. It will take time to change my thought patterns, just as it took time to learn them. I am here for the long haul and grateful for all the gifts this program continues to give me.
“Prayer is talking to our Higher Power and meditation is listening to Him/Her.”
I’ve heard it said that prayer is talking to our Higher Power and meditation is listening to Him/Her. I learned to practice prayer my first time through OA back in the early 80’s. I wasn’t very good at meditation then.
The first time I remember meditating was at a retreat at Ferncliff my second time back in OA. I was walking the labyrinth near the little forest chapel. When you walk a labyrinth you are supposed to meditate on a question. I don’t remember what the question was, but all of a sudden I, clearly in my mind I heard the words “God is in control.” At the time it was the answer I needed to whatever my problem was.
Since that time there have been other occurrences of words coming through that served me in a time of need. “If our God is for us, then who could ever stop us… If our God is with us, then what could stand against?” are words that have come to mind when I have felt that I am facing difficult circumstances.
The message I keep hearing now is “The more I trust You, the more I grow”. These words reassure me that as I keep working the program, my recovery and my serenity will grow ever stronger.
Hello all! Looking forward to our Fall Retreat at Heifer Ranch October 20-22.
Registration deadline is September 29 to reserve a room and/or meals. (There is no deadline to attend the retreat for the day!)
Click here for a copy of the registration form: Registration Form – October 2017 Retreat(1)
“I can’t think my way into right action, I must act my way into right thinking.”
One of my favorite things I heard many years ago in OA goes something like this: ‘I can’t think my way into right action, I must act my way into right thinking’. This simple statement of action changed my whole world in OA. Somehow I missed the point that unless I took action in the program nothing would change. You see, my thinking sounds so good when I’m thinking it and it could be thinking that is way off base.
Speaking of thinking. If my best thinking got me to OA, what makes me think that my thinking can solve the food problem? When I finally surrendered my thinking and took the suggestions of my sponsor and this program, the whole world of OA opened up to me. I took the actions prescribed in the AA Big Book and the OA Literature. I took the actions suggested from my sponsor even when I didn’t believe her suggestions would work. Note: by the way her suggestions always worked. So again, I don’t even have to believe I just have to act and then I am shown the miracles of this program and Then I believe. This always sounded like a backward process to me. Once again my good thinking did not work. Only with action do I get to experience this wonderful new life and the freedom from the bondage of food. Gives me chills to just recount what the OA program has given me.
May you all stay around long enough to experience this wonderful life that OA can give you! You simply can’t imagine what it will be like until you experience it yourself.
Super Saturday: August 5th at the Fletcher Library 9am-2:30pm “Abstinence vs. a Plan-of-Eating”
Fall Retreat: October 20-22 at Heifer Ranch “Learn to Love”
Come enjoy recovery together!
“We relax and take it easy. We do not struggle”
These are powerful words from the Big Book. They tie into the reading I did this morning from the “Just for Today” trifold: “Just for Today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my ‘luck’ as it comes, and fit myself to it.” It is when I am struggling that I have lost my connection or trust in a power greater than myself. It is easy to fall back on relying on my own unsteady willpower…after all, it was my standard for so long! When I find myself becoming anxious or afraid I now see these as warning signs that I am off track in program. Pausing and taking a deep cleansing breath is an immediate way of centering myself with HP. Then my soul is open and ready to probe for the next right thing my Higher Power seeks for me to discover. It works if I work it. Relax…
“There is no magic in these rooms – but there are miracles.”
However, I was very miserable and I looked awful. I needed to change.
My life had been changing and the promises became true!
— I attend two weekend Retreats and two Super Saturdays each year that Intergroup provides.
When a vessel is in distress, they send out an SOS, the universal cry for help. Every mariner, pilot, and rescue team knows this signal, no matter their language or if the signal is sent via morse code, radio, or even written down! A ship’s captain knows that if they need help, they can call out an SOS, and receive assistance.
As an OA member, we have our own distress call. When life becomes overwhelming, and I feel like I am in a crisis, the program tells me that this is an S.O.S:
In times of anxiety and crisis, I am almost always completely powerless over the situation. These powerful words allow us to stop, breathe, and acknowledge that we cannot control this situation, and we are able to move forward with Steps Two and Three, acknowledging that our HP can restore us to sanity over this situation. Only then can we surrender the crisis to our HP and let her will guide us through the crisis and beyond.
The next time you feel overwhelmed, afraid, or just stressed out, remember that you need to issue your S.O.S to your Higher Power and work the steps on that situation.